Hurt Meets Healer Podcast
Hurt people, hurt people. Are you ready to work through the pain of your past? Healing is possible! Join us on our healing journey, a journey to freedom, where you'll get straight truth from genuine people.
We use our story and experience to help others walk through the trauma of intimate betrayal. This is raw and real talk from average people who are walking the path of healing.
Kim is a Certified Professional Mentor™ through BraveHearts University, and a Certified Christian Life Coach through the Board of Christian Life Coaching.
Episodes
50 episodes
The Gift of Grief: From Lament to Hope
Grief has a way of exposing what we usually try to hide: the unanswered questions, the anger, the tears that show up at the worst time, and the ache that doesn’t tie up neatly. Today we sit with the idea of “grief as a gift” and wrestle honestl...
The Gift Of Grief
Grief can feel like a heavy heart you can’t set down, and the worst part is how many people expect you to carry it quietly or quickly. I’m walking through a fresh season of loss after my mom passed away, and I wanted to slow down and tell the t...
The Empathy Gap
If you’ve ever heard “I’m sorry” and still felt completely alone, you already know the difference between words and empathy. We sit down as a couple living in the fallout of sexual addiction and infidelity and tell the truth about the empathy g...
Purpose In The Pain
Betrayal doesn’t just hurt, it rearranges your entire inner world. When your spouse has been unfaithful and you choose to stay, the hardest part is often what comes after: the long months that turn into years, the slow recovery, the setbacks, t...
I Want A Partner, Not A Project
Your marriage can survive a lot, but betrayal has a unique way of turning love into labor. When infidelity hits, trust is not the only thing that breaks. Safety breaks. Reality breaks. And for many betrayed spouses, the relationship quietly bec...
Safety First, part 2
Safety doesn’t come back because time passes, it comes back when your body gets real evidence that danger is over. We sit down for a raw, practical talk about betrayal trauma and why infidelity and sexual betrayal can leave the betrayed spouse ...
Safety First, part 1
Safety isn’t a buzzword for me right now, it’s the line between surviving and actually healing. I’m recording solo as John steps back, and I’m talking plainly about what it feels like to live in the aftermath of infidelity, porn addiction, and ...
Break The Cycle
The fastest way to stay stuck after infidelity is to keep having the same fight with new words. We name the brutal loop that so many couples live in after sexual betrayal: poor communication, misunderstandings, mistrust, and then another round ...
What The What? A Hard Talk About Trust
“If you couldn’t talk, would I fall in love with your actions?” That one question exposes what trust is made of and that which betrayal destroys. We sit down for a raw, unfiltered conversation about what happens when words sound spiritual and s...
Walking With An Emotional Limp
Betrayal trauma doesn’t fade because someone says “sorry” or quotes forgiveness. When trust gets shattered by infidelity and sexual betrayal, the fallout can look like grief, anxiety, insomnia, PTSD symptoms, shame, and a faith crisis that make...
Why I Stayed
The question “Why did you stay?” can feel like an accusation until you’ve lived inside betrayal trauma. We sit down as a married couple and tell the truth about what kept us here after infidelity, lies, and the long fallout of sexual addiction ...
Is There Peace in Not Knowing? - Finding Real Peace After Betrayal
Peace that depends on silence isn’t peace at all—it’s quicksand. We tackle the hard question: is there peace in not knowing after sexual betrayal? Kim and John open up about the shaky calm that comes from avoidance, the simmer beneath a detente...
The Bucket Of Suck
A phrase as plain as “bucket of suck” can hold an entire season of life—when betrayal trauma hits, the weight of grief, rage, and confusion follows you everywhere. We open up about what it feels like to carry that load, how it spills into every...
Let's Talk About Regrets
****Life Unscripted: Our stories, unfiltered. We are walking through life, sharing our stories. If at any point you become triggered by this conversation, please care for yourself.Regret can feel like quicksand after sexual betray...
I'm Your Spouse & Partner, Please Include Me
****Life Unscripted: Our stories, unfiltered. We are walking through life, sharing our stories. If at any point you become triggered by this conversation, please care for yourself.You can end the sexual acting out and still be liv...
Do Liars Know They’re Lying? Recovery, Self-Deception, And Trust
What if the most dangerous lie is the one you tell yourself first? We dig into the hard question—do liars know when they’re lying—and follow it through the real-world fallout: broken trust, numbed empathy, and a slow drift from love into image ...
I’m Taking Off The Kid Gloves
If you’ve ever felt forced to be “the understanding one” while your heart keeps bleeding, this conversation will feel like oxygen. Kim and John dive straight into the cost of kid gloves after betrayal—how minimizing, DARVO, and conflict avoidan...
Why Is Change So Darn Hard? - part 2
I Stopped Acting Out… So Why Do I Still Act Like a Jerk? (The Arrogance Trap in Recovery)Sobriety stops the behavior, but does it actually make your partner feel safe? We go straight at the hard stuff: why pride can feel like pr...
Why Is Change So Darn Hard? - part 1
Change isn’t hard because you’re weak; it’s hard because it rewires how you survive. We open up about the messy middle of recovery after sexual betrayal and infidelity, where deep ruts—neural and emotional—fight to keep things the same. Togethe...
FBS - Faulty Belief Systems
**Disclaimer: We discuss real issues about our relationship. This, at times, is raw, emotional, and extremely hard. Use caution and employ grounding techniques if you become triggered by this discussion.What if the story you tell yoursel...
When You Choose You, You Lose Me - part 2
“When you choose you, you lose me” is a hard sentence to hear—and a necessary one to explore. We unpack how selfish patterns, secrecy, and transactional bargains corrode love after betrayal, and why safety-focused boundaries are not punishment ...
When You Choose You, You Lose Me, part 1
A single sentence—“When you choose you, you lose me”—can crack open the truth about why relationships crumble after betrayal. We take you inside that reality with a candid look at selfishness versus self-care, what safety actually feels like in...
When The Shift Hits The Fan
Kim and John wrap up Season 1 by reflecting on their personal and relational growth through recovery from sexual addiction and infidelity. They explore how significant life changes—like Kim's 50-pound weight loss journey—mirror the emotional he...
Part 3: Forgiveness...Is More Than Saying Sorry
Forgiveness after betrayal isn't simply about saying "sorry"—it demands fundamental change that many struggling couples never achieve. This raw, unfiltered conversation pulls back the curtain on what true reconciliation requires after sexual be...
Part 2: Forgiveness...Is More Than Saying Sorry
Navigating the treacherous waters of forgiveness after intimate betrayal requires more than just hearing "I'm sorry." In this second installment of our forgiveness series, we dive deep into what true forgiveness looks like when trust has been s...