Hurt Meets Healer Podcast
Hurt people, hurt people. Are you ready to work through the pain of your past? Healing is possible! Join us on our healing journey, a journey to freedom, where you'll get straight truth from genuine people.
We use our story and experience to help others walk through the trauma of intimate betrayal. This is raw and real talk from average people who are walking the path of healing.
Kim is a Certified Professional Mentor™ through BraveHearts University, and a Certified Christian Life Coach through the Board of Christian Life Coaching.
Episodes
26 episodes
Part 2: Forgiveness...Is More Than Saying Sorry
Navigating the treacherous waters of forgiveness after intimate betrayal requires more than just hearing "I'm sorry." In this second installment of our forgiveness series, we dive deep into what true forgiveness looks like when trust has been s...
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Season 1
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Episode 26
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46:59
Forgiveness...Is More Than Saying Sorry
What does genuine forgiveness actually look like when you've been deeply wounded? In this raw, unfiltered conversation, we tackle the misconception that forgiveness simply means saying "I'm sorry" and moving on. Instead, we explore the painful,...
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Season 1
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Episode 25
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41:54
Healthy Detachment: Finding Space to Heal After Betrayal
The fog of betrayal can be suffocating. After discovering sexual infidelity, many partners find themselves gasping for air, desperately trying to make sense of their new reality while constantly being pulled back into chaos by ongoing deception...
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Season 1
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Episode 24
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39:02
The State of Our Union
What does healing look like after decades of sexual addiction and betrayal? In this raw and vulnerable episode, we pull back the curtain on our own marriage journey, sharing our "State of the Union" after 36+ years together.The transfor...
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Season 1
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Episode 23
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46:47
Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part 2
Sexual betrayal shatters the sacred covenant of marriage, creating complex decisions about whether to stay or leave after such devastating violations of trust and commitment. We examine seven critical indicators that signal when leaving might b...
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Episode 22
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47:36
Should I Stay or Should I Go? Part 1
Making the difficult decision to leave a relationship is one of life's most challenging crossroads, especially when betrayal, chronic disrespect, or ongoing harmful behaviors are involved.• Seven key indicators that it might be time to ...
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Season 1
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Episode 21
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44:55
The Million Dollar 3 Letter Word, part 3: Why We Assume Instead of Ask
Assumptions can silently erode even the strongest relationships. In this eye-opening continuation of our "Million Dollar Three-Letter Word" series, we dive deep into the personality traits that lead people to assume rather than ask.Have...
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Episode 20
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39:35
The Million Dollar, 3 Letter Word, part 2
The Ask vs. Assume Dilemma: How Your Communication Style Affects TrustCould your communication style be silently eroding the foundation of your relationships? Dive into the fascinating world of asking versus assuming with us as we explor...
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Episode 19
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37:10
Trust is Built on Actions, Not Words: The Follow-Through Effect
Follow-through turns the theory of solving problems into practical reality in relationships, serving as the critical component that transforms intentions into actions and maintains trust. We explore why consistent follow-through demonstrates re...
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Episode 18
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34:24
Solving vs Fixing: Using Biblical Wisdom To Restore Broken Relationships
The journey from betrayal to healing isn't about quick fixes—it's about deep, transformative solutions that address root causes. In this heartfelt conversation, John and Kim continue their exploration of "solving versus fixing" by presenting si...
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Season 1
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Episode 17
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43:50
Solving vs. Fixing: Can Broken Relationships Be Repaired?
Perhaps most powerfully, we challenge the notion that broken relationships should be "restored" to their previous state. Instead, we advocate for building something entirely new - a relationship founded on honesty, transparency and authentic co...
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Episode 16
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39:41
Solving vs Fixing: The Path to Relationship Healing
When it comes to healing from betrayal trauma and addiction, are you trying to fix a problem or solve it? There's a profound difference, and it could determine whether your recovery lasts or fails.Fixing applies a temporary patch to imm...
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Episode 15
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44:27
Is It Just Another Bad Day?
When does a negative thought pattern cross the line from protection to poison? Kim and John Capps tackle the thorny subject of resentment after betrayal, exploring the subtle difference between setting boundaries and harboring bitterness.
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Season 1
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Episode 14
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40:55
One Mell of a Hess
In this reflective episode of Hurt Meets Healer, we dive deep into the challenges and turbulence of repairing relationships impacted by betrayal. By navigating through the intricate, emotional landscapes of sexual addiction and infidelity, we o...
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Season 1
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Episode 13
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36:46
S1:E12 - Make The Repair, part 2
What if the journey to healing from sexual addiction and infidelity could unlock deeper, more authentic connections in your life? We explore the heart-wrenching yet transformative process of making amends in relationships shattered by betrayal....
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Season 1
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Episode 12
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35:45
S1:E11 - Make The Repair, part 1
What are amends? Are amends necessary for repairing a relationship? How do I make amends?John & Kim discuss these questions and more on today's podcast.Quotes & Resources:“Make amends.” Merriam-Webster.com Dictiona...
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Episode 11
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32:49
S1:E10 - As Long As It Takes, part 2
Kim & John continue the discussion about expectations for how long the healing/recovery journey will take.
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Season 1
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Episode 10
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40:21
S1:E9 As Long As It Takes, part 1
Kim & John share more of their journey in this very real, very raw episode. At times, as betrayed spouses, we have expectations put on us to "heal faster", "get over it", "forgive & forget". Kim gets real about her experiences with the ...
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Season 1
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Episode 9
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43:29
S1:E8 - This Is My Story, part 7
Kim & John continue telling their story. Married for 35 years, a lot of hurts, betrayal, and communication differences, we hope our vulnerability will help those in similar life dynamics. FYI - we are NOT professionals, just two ordinary hu...
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Season 1
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Episode 8
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33:03
S1:E7 - This Is My Story, part 6
Kim & John's story continues. Married for 35 years, a lot of hurts, betrayal, and communication differences, we hope our vulnerability will help those in similar life dynamics. FYI - we are NOT professionals, just two ordinary humans doing ...
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Season 1
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Episode 7
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34:03
S1:E6 - This Is My Story, part 5
Kim & John continue with their story. Married for 35 years, a lot of hurts, betrayal, and communication differences, we hope our vulnerability will help those in similar life dynamics. FYI - we are NOT professionals, just two ordinary human...
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Season 1
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Episode 6
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29:45
S1:E5 - This Is My Story, part 4
Kim & John continue with their story and John shares more of his story.Married for 35 years, a lot of hurts, betrayal, and communication differences, we hope our vulnerability will help those in similar life dynamics. FYI - we are NOT p...
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Season 1
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Episode 5
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27:27
S1:E4 - The Million Dollar, 3-Letter Word
Kim unpacks a word that, when not used, causes distress and anger.
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Season 1
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Episode 4
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27:27